Relationships Get Better with Age

I have realized since being in my 40s, I relate to people a lot better than I did when I was younger. I can set boundaries today, I can pull back when needed to, and I also know exactly the type of people I want in my life, and what people I don’t.

Toxicity is rampant in most relationships these days, and I feel as you get older, you get better at weeding that out. Of course, this varies per individual, but you get what I mean. I find that especially in the relationship I am in now. I love my boyfriend so much, but I am aware that in order to make a relationship work, we need to allow a certain amount of space for each other to grow. We need to be two “whole” people, instead of pieces of one trying to stick and paste to each other. He has specifically told me that he doesn’t want our relationship to be a codependent one, and I respect him so much for this. Me and my husband were incredibly codependent and toxic, and I don’t want to repeat past mistakes at all. Being with someone that has a certain sense of responsibility has been a real bonus for me in this relationship.

Having healthy relationships is also true for friendships as well. Have you ever had a friend just call you and vent for hours, but when you need to vent, they are nowhere to be found? How is that healthy? Do you know to remove these people from your life, or have the strength to?

As I’ve gotten older, my relationships have gotten older too. People that I knew when I was younger have grown into parents and elders and have matured as well as I have. It has been hard to maintain some of them, as my bipolarness alienated me from a lot of people of my past, but those that have stuck around have been closer than ever to me, and our bond has never been stronger.

But I think, personally, that the older you get, relationships with people just get better and better. Just look at how well seniors bond. Did you ever wonder why that is?

Just something to ponder.

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