To me, this goal is the hardest to achieve, and why all other goals we make for ourselves fail. We make goals, want to achieve them, but do we even consider making the main goal to stay disciplined throughout? For me right now, losing weight is just a losing battle. Everything, from working out to eating healthy, is just ending in utter and total failure. So, what then? How do we stick to the goals we make? That’s the challenge.
How do you stay disciplined? Just breathe and take it step by step:
🌙 Step One: Sleep Like You Mean It
Goal: Go to bed and wake up at the same time every day (even weekends) – this is the most important one. It changes the dynamic of everything your body does for the entire day. I find myself so tired sometimes, and it just lingers all day because I have had poor sleep from scrolling too much at 2am when I should have been sleeping. NEEDS TO CHANGE!!
So here is what I started doing:
- Setting an actual bedtime alarm — not just a morning one.
- 1 hour before bed: no screens, just soft music, prayer, or journaling. (Need to eliminate late-night doom scrolling, seriously).
- Making my room a sanctuary: dim lights, cool air, no phone in bed. (Let’s put the phone on the other side of the room at night from now on).
- Waking up with purpose — drinking water, stretching, and making my bed.
☀️ Step Two: Morning Momentum
Goal: Starting the day with grounding rituals.
- Quick gratitude prayer or journaling (just 3 things I’m thankful for – sometimes thinking hard on long gratitude lists can become overwhelming and discouraging to actually do it).
- Moving my body — dancing, stretching, walking, whatever wakes my soul, (my current plan of attack on the lack of exercising, also on the hunt for a gym buddy at the YMCA).
- Eating something nourishing, not just caffeine, (personally don’t drink coffee anymore, been trying to get more Protein with early morning Low Sugar SlimFast shakes)
- Reviewing one why behind my goal. (Reminding myself: “I’m rebuilding my life.”)
💖 Step Three: Emotional Self-Care Discipline
Goal: Keeping my emotional energy steady.
- Limiting obsessive checking (texts, emails, social media). This is a BIG ONE!! PUT THE PHONE DOWN!!
- Replacing waiting/anxiety time with creative time — writing, dancing, praying, painting.
- Checking in nightly: “Did I show up for myself today?”
🍎 Step Four: Physical & Spiritual Nourishment
Goal: Build consistency, not perfection.
- Moving my body daily — gym, dancing, or walking under the stars.
- Hydrating and eating real food (not just survival snacks).
- Praying, meditating, or reading a short spiritual text every day.
- Rest on Sundays — no guilt.
✨ Step Five: Reflection & Reward
Goal: Keeping myself motivated through awareness.
- Tracking my wins daily — even tiny ones. (10 minutes dancing, yay!)
- Reflecting weekly: What went right? What can I refine?
- Rewarding myself for consistency — flowers, a cozy night in, a new playlist.
Never Punishing Myself for Not Being Able to Complete a Goal
It’s not about punishment, it’s about being able to pick yourself up and start again.
I think these five steps are the best way I can start implementing a new type of discipline. so I can be more proactive in attaining my goals. I think the hardest thing I deal with is punishment too. I tend to punish myself for not being able to do something, and then never go back to it.
It’s time to break the pattern!
1-2-3- GO!
Stay tuned.
